Kids are smart people.
They know just what they can get away with in what situations.
They have different behaviors at home, at school, at church, at Grandma's, with friends...
Our kids have different behaviors for each of their two houses. Their mom has different rules than we have.
We require a lot more order than their mom requires. We're just different people.
Unfortunately for us, The Children do not like additional rules and order.
Not surprising, but it certainly does not make us the favorites. In fact, I'd say it is the reverse of that.
We tell ourselves that one day it will be worth it. One day they will appreciate what we've done.
My dad told me something I hadn't thought about before though. He said that our job is to do the right thing, and to raise good kids. THAT is our reward. Not that they appreciate what we have done, but that they turn out well.
That's going to be my new outlook. Whatever it takes, we'll do our best to raise The Children to be the best people that they can be.
And when that happens, that will be our reward.